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3 Personal Traits That are Not Signs of "Being Weak"

You're weak. I'm weak. We're all weak. At the end of the day, ideas of what's weak and what isn't are
3 Personal Traits That are Not Signs of "Being Weak"
You’re weak. I’m weak. We’re all weak.
At the end of the day, ideas of what’s weak and what isn’t are all in the eyes of the beholder.
Yes, it’s no longer “beauty” we’re talking about; it’s “weakness” that is in the eye of the beholder.
Have you ever considered how much perception has to do with good mental health?
Well, we’re going to consider that right now.
We’re going to dismantle common ideas of what it means to be weak.

"Weakness" is All About Perception
What does it mean to be weak? Does it mean to be physically not strong? Are we talking about emotional weakness? And compared to what? And to whom?
When we talk about weakness, it’s important to have a starting point. Being weak is something that the misinformed throw around when talking about mental health.
If you have depression, you’re soft. If you have anxiety, you spend your life in your head. Whatever we’re going through, it probably doesn’t matter, we’re told.
I’m here to tell you that it does matter. Very much so.
These are three traits that I’ve found affect people who struggle with their mental health from time to time.
What’s important to remember is that these traits don’t make you weak. They make you a human being. And there’s nothing wrong with that.
1. Being Kind to Others
Oh boy, has this gotten me into hot water.
“You’re a pushover.”
“You’re too nice to people.”
I’m sorry. When did that become a flaw?
Let’s break down why people might say these kinds of things to you.
They might be feeling insecure about themselves. They might wish they had the capacity to put others first–and so they might be projecting their own feelings of insecurity on others.
Being kind is a superpower. It’s the ability to see something in others that you have felt yourself. It’s the ability to transpose your very real, very human emotions onto another person–to know that deep down we are all the same.
Kindness is not weakness. Yes, it might make you more in tune with human suffering.
But that is only a bad thing if you allow it to be.
See your kindness as a strength.
2. Being Introspective
Why have I lived so much of my life in my head?
And why did I let it bother me when people pointed that out?
It’s the plight of the overthinkers, the private battles of the mind.
Being introspective doesn’t make you weak. It means you have a rich inner world. It means you have the capacity for great thoughts. It means you like trying things on for size.
I think that others might worry about this because we’ve been indoctrinated to show how great we are, at all times, in all places.
But that kind of behavior leads to arrogance, a kind of false pride that is dangerous.
There is much to be said for the contemplative life. Great plans can be worked out in the mind. Thought experiments have helped many a man and woman before they unleashed their talents on the world. Being introspective is potent in the force that it carries to impact your mental state, which, in turn, can affect your behavior.
It’s silly to think of introspection as a bad thing. Sure, too much overthinking can lead to trouble, but how often do you have to plan your action in your head before you do something? You do it all the time.
There’s the chance that overthinking leads to anxiety, so be mindful of that. If it’s affecting your quality of life, it’s too much. But keep it in balance, and you can learn to paint bright landscapes in your mind.
3. Caring What Others Think About You
Depending on where you get information, you might be bombarded with self-help tropes such as “It doesn’t matter what others think of you! You are the captain of your own ship! Only what you do and say matters!”
That’s a bit much. Caring about what others think is a sign that you are a caring person. It’s a sign that you know you are one of billions of humans in the world. It’s not always your show–and you know that. That’s what makes you a kind person.
And that’s what sometimes can affect your mental health.
But at the core of mental health is a deep affinity for others. It doesn’t have to be demonstrated all of the time. It just has to be acknowledged.
Because you care, others can care too. Modeling good behavior is the best way to effect change. It’s in no way a sin to care what others think. It’s part and parcel of the mental health journey.
Without it, there is a vast emptiness.
Yes, sometimes this feeling might go away. You’re not always going to feel like Captain Caring all the time. Just acknowledge this and move on.
But what is true is that caring for others is an admirable personal trait, just like the two previous traits on this list.
In Conclusion
You’ve gone through your life getting hit by others’ thought missiles. Everyone has an opinion. I’m sharing some right now.
What you ultimately have to decide is if these statements are true for you. And not just true as in, “Yes, I experienced that exact situation on Tuesday at 2 pm,” but true in a fundamental, human sense.
We’re talking timeless mental health wisdom here.
Being kind, being introspective, and caring what others think are not embarrassing qualities.
They are qualities to be cherished.
They help build the foundation for a healthy and resilient body and mind.
Whew, that was a bit of whirlwind. I’m glad you made it through. Now go and take what you’ve learned and continue to be the good person that you are.

See You Tomorrow,
Jordan

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Stay kind, my friends.
Stay kind, my friends.
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