If you ever find yourself in the grips of anger, I want you to ask yourself a few questions. Because questions get you away from knee-jerk reactions–they force you to step back and consider alternate paths.
Am I angry?
Seems obvious enough, right? But how often have you stopped to consider this in the moment? Before you can do something about anger, you need to know if you are angry. You need to label the emotion. Getting this kind of information essential because it helps you chart a new course forward.
Why am I angry?
Another obvious question, right? Not exactly. Ask yourself this not once or twice, but many times in a row. The more you ask yourself why, the deeper you get to the root cause. In business circles, this is known as The 5 Whys.
Will anger truly help this situation?
Remember, the point of asking questions is to get you to take a step back. When you ask this question after getting some initial feedback about what’s causing your anger, you start to see new paths forward.
And that’s the goal, isn’t it?
Taking a step back to take a step away–from angry actions to more hopeful ones, to anger as a toxic reaction to understanding as a nourishing response.
Angry is a tricky enemy. It’s not going to be something that will disappear right away. If you’re struggling, hang in there. Don’t beat yourself up over it. Aim to be better the next time. And reach out for help if you need it. There’s no shame in that.