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Are You Looking to Be "Right" Too Much?

To be right. To prove someone wrong. It's satisfying. But crave it too much, and it can also be debil
Are You Looking to Be "Right" Too Much?
To be right. To prove someone wrong.
It’s satisfying.
But crave it too much, and it can also be debilitating.
The need to be right can stream from many sources.
But, like anything else, a well-lived life requires balance.
Let’s dig into what the need to be right entails–and why needing it too much might be a sign of something else going on.

Cool shirt, yo.
Cool shirt, yo.
What is Being "Right?"
What does it even mean to be “right” anyway?
Does it mean that you know more than someone else? Does it mean that you are well educated? Or does it completely depend on the context? Yes. To all.
But, of course, life can’t be lived through simple definitions. Nuance is always the name of the game.
When we crave being right, it means that we get satisfaction as the one who knows, as the bearer of truth. And this can be a powerful feeling. Many a person has craved this kind of admiration. It’s equally enticing for world leaders as it is for leaders of the office carpool.
But if being right depends on context, and if context changes all of the time, does it even matter who’s right and who’s wrong?
It turns out, it’s better to be balanced than to be right all the time.
Being Right Can Be Debilitating
When we crave being right so much that we will do whatever we can to be in that position, this extreme mindset can skew our worldview–and separate us from our peers.
It’s one thing to be so well read and so well educated that knowledge flows from us like an eternal spring of youthfulness and happiness. It’s another thing entirely to have to interrupt others to let them know that we are, in fact, correct in our opinions.
This is what I mean when I say it can be debilitating to need to be right all the time.
Because, at the end of the day, we can, in fact, be right. But needing to show it is a leading indicator of something else going on.
Because the person who knows they are right does not need to show it. They can simply bask in their private wisdom gleaned over the years. Private wisdom is not offensive. It just is what it is. It can be shared with others, making both parties stronger in the process, but it need not be. Wisdom is content to just exist.
Needing to be right stands in stark contrast to simple, private wisdom.
Questions to Ask Yourself
So ask yourself these questions as you move through your day and week.
Am I needing to be right to prove something to others?
Do I not feel confident being who I am?
Are there other ways to express my knowledge that won’t annoy others?
These questions are just the tip of the iceberg. I’m sure you can come up with more of your own.
Just remember this: You may be right, but you don’t always need to show it.
Sometimes the best course of action is to say nothing at all.

Thanks for reading. This topic can quickly turn negative. That’s not my intention. I hope it simply sparks your mind to groove in a new way.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend,
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