By now, you might be thinking of some behaviors that you rely on when you get stressed or feel anxious.
Please don’t beat yourself up about it. That’s only going to make things worse.
Still, it’s important to realize when it might be time to take checking behavior a bit more seriously and get some help if you need to.
Here’s a very important question you should ask yourself if you or someone you love seems to be stuck in the checking downward spiral:
Is this behavior affecting my quality of life and preventing me from doing things that I normally do?
That question can be applied to you or someone else.
Obviously, it’s more difficult to know exactly what’s going on in another person’s life. You don’t live in their brain, but your input as an outside observer is actually incredibly useful. It’s what mental health professionals rely on for many mental health diagnoses–they want to collect as much evidence as they can, and sometimes outside observation is the only way to verify behaviors that people may not even realize they’re doing.
Once you’ve asked yourself that question, you’re on the right path. Why? Because you’ve brought your behavior into awareness. You can’t change anything until you know it’s happening.
There’s not enough time or space in this weekly mental health issue to discuss all the steps you could take to overcome checking behavior. But the most important first step you can take when you’re understanding your behaviors is to get a sense of where, when, and how they manifest in your life. From there, you have data to make better decisions.
Is checking behavior popping up in your life like it does mine?
It’s not the end of the world. It’s actually a good place to begin.
You may feel uneasy when you’re crossing a high bridge, but, when you think about it, it’s actually an opportunity and vantage point that shows you where you need to go.