To feel appreciated, you really only have to remember one thing, and it’s a tough pill to swallow.
You, and only you, can decide if you’re appreciated or not.
You can’t force anyone to do something that they don’t want to do–or aren’t capable of doing. And before you hang your head and decide that the world isn’t fair, I want you to consider something.
This mindset change is actually amazingly powerful. When you decide that you need others’ nice comments to derive your self-worth, you limit the power you have. You essentially give it away to others, most of whom don’t deserve it and never will. You should be very selective with whom you place your trust and power. Because your power originates with you, in your own heart and mind. Giving it away to others by asking them to tell you how great you are is a battle you won’t win. And it’s not because you’re not deserving of others’ praise; it’s because you’re approaching the battle from the deepest of trenches.
Your vantage point is always better when you start from within your heart. Start there. Decide what it is that you feel you’re lacking that you need from others. Hasn’t any good change that has ever happened to you originated from within yourself? It has to be so. It’s your life, after all.
Meditate on the words from the last few paragraphs. Read them again if you need to. It’s often the case that the people who don’t feel appreciated also don’t feel they have the right to be appreciated.
Fill in the gaps of your own creation, and you start to see a new way forward, a way free and clear of other people’s comments, be they filled with praise or judgment.
You have so much to give to the world that no other person can.
Your experiences are unique.
Your life is your own.