Let’s go through a few common scenarios that most people have experienced at least once in their lives.
The Family Member Who Hurt Your Feelings
When you grow up in close quarters with others, there are going to be times when a family member hurts your feelings, whether they meant to or not.
Maybe they made a comment about the way you look. Or maybe they don’t approve of who you spend your time with. Whatever it is, it’s the ones who are closest to you who can do the most harm. And that’s why you shouldn’t ignore the bad comments and actions of the people closest to you.
Like an open wound that never gets disinfected, comments from loved ones have the potential to fester and grow worse over time.
We’re Not Only Talking About Families of Origin
I’m talking about any group of people that, because of the close-knit nature of it, could be considered a family–work, school groups, places of worship. All of these “family” units can make mistakes, which can, in turn, cut deep if let unaddressed.
Take work scenarios, for instance. Because so many people derive a lot of their value from the work they do, it can be especially difficult to tolerate hurtful remarks and actions. But, like you would with someone related to you, you must respond to the work relations in your life.
All relationships need love and attention, no matter what kind they are.
In fact, as people get older, they often spend more time with their work family than they do with their real family. Not dealing with bad blood in the work environment means that hurt feelings eventually spill over to other relationships and affect the dynamics there as well.
It’s even worse if you work in a family business where family and work are mixed together. Ignoring problems in settings where multiple relationships and identities overlap can multiply the damage. Now, instead, of a localized infection, you could be dealing with wounds in multiple parts of your life.