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Don't try to help everyone. Do this.

There's so much to do. There are so many people who need support. For a thoughtful person like yourse
Don't try to help everyone. Do this.
By Jordan Brown • Issue #79 • View online
There’s so much to do.
There are so many people who need support.
For a thoughtful person like yourself, the magnitude of help that is needed in this world can get overwhelming.
Where are you supposed to start?
Disappointing news flash: you’re not going to be able to help everyone.
But that’s OK.
Because that’s not an effective approach anyway.
What you should do is start small.
Start with one person.

How to Change Your "Helper Mindset"
The kindest people I know want to be there for everyone.
They want to help as many people as they can, and they want to do it all at once.
The problem with that approach is that it creates a mindset of GREAT overwhelm for the helper. It stops the helper before they even get started. And that is a shame–because there is so much a person can do, if only one uses the right approach.
The approach that follows is what works best for me. It might just work for you as well.
Instead of thinking about the millions of people who are struggling in this world at this very moment, think of one person. Better yet, think of one person in particular. Can you imagine that one person? Can you see their face? Good. Keep adding details. Do you know their name? Where they live?
OK, don’t be creepy. But I do want you to flesh out the details of this specific person.
Why?
Because the more detailed you can get with your helper mindset, the better you can help. Specific details lead to thoughtful answers. They help fill in the blanks in your mind. Before you know it, you’ve developed an approach that you can use today to help this particular person that you have in your mind.
And because humans are actually quite similar, if you have a specific strategy for this person, you likely have a specific strategy that can be used for other people you come across during the day.
Still Not Convinced? Here's Why it Works.
When you start with one person, you approach the helping situation with the specificity needed to make a difference. The approach you develop is one of empathy, the kind of empathy that can only come from a one-to-one human connection.
And if you think about it, isn’t this what positive social change is all about? It always start with just one person.
Over time, that person may share what they learned from you with another person, who might share it with another person. Before you know it, you’ve started rolling your Help Snowball down the hill.
To Sum It All Up - The Help Snowball
  1. When your brain becomes overwhelmed and wants to help everyone, flip it to a different channel–Channel One.
  2. Narrow in on one person in particular. This will generate specific, real-world strategies that make a real-world difference.
  3. Specific strategies are typically useful for more than just the person you have in mind. They can be used to help others throughout the day.
  4. All empathy starts with one-to-one connections. Start there, and you have a superpower that will snowball and pick up others as it rolls down the hill.
This process may look slightly different for you. Tailor it how you see fit. Make it your own.
And then pass it on.
One person at a time.
Was this helpful? I hope it was. Often it just takes a small change in mindset to make a big difference in someone’s life.

Have a great week!

Jordan
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