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Instead of Focusing on Outcomes, Focus on This Instead

Why, as capable human beings with so much going on for ourselves, do we think we need more? Why does
Instead of Focusing on Outcomes, Focus on This Instead
Why, as capable human beings with so much going on for ourselves, do we think we need more?
Why does success feel like it’s just out of reach?
Why doesn’t this feeling ever seem to go away?
This is something I’ve struggled with.
I’ll read 20 books, and then I need to read 20 more.
I’ll write 1,000 words, but it feels like I should have written 1,200.
I think it’s because we tend to focus on the outcome and not the process itself.
Want to know what I mean?
Keep reading.

Outcome Obsession is Bad for You
What is outcome obsession?
Let’s go over some examples.
We think the getting the next job will make us happy, but we forget the work that goes into doing that job.
Will we even like that work?
What’s the day-to-day like?
Or we think we need to make a certain amount of money per month, and then, surely, we’ll be quite happy, won’t we?
Maybe for a little bit, but then we realize that we’re still the same people underneath.
We still have to get through each and every day, all the while dealing with our annoying, unpredictable selves!
So what is a fallible human being to do?
Fall in Love with the Process
Instead of focusing on outcomes, focus on the process.
Focus on the daily actions that will get you where you want to go.
If you set up a process that you love, the outcome doesn’t matter so much.
Instead of focusing on outcomes, focus on the process.
Focus on the daily actions that will get you where you want to go.
If you set up a process that you love, the outcome doesn’t matter so much.
This is what I mean.
Say you want to lose weight.
Focusing on NEED TO LOSE 20 POUNDS over and over is not going to get you there.
What will?
The process will.
All habits start small.
Can’t do 20 sit-ups? Do 5 today.
Can’t do that? Then do 1.
It’s not silly. There’s a lot of good writing that has been done about this.
James Clear’s fantastic book, Atomic Habits, is a good place to start.
Starting small is starting a process.
Take small actions every day.
Improve by 1 percent each day.
Those incremental gains will lead to something huge; there’s no way they couldn’t.
Don't Fall into the Trap - Use Life Experience
When life gets tough, and you’re pushing to reach a goal you’ve never reached before, it’s easy to fall into the negativity trap.
Don’t do it.
You’ve accomplished amazing feats before.
And, I’m just guessing here, but you probably followed a process without realizing it.
Say, and still I’m guessing, you set out to help a friend or family member.
You didn’t just hope for a magical gust of pixie dust to summon a gargantuan helping effort.
You thought about what you could do, and then you tried different strategies until you figured out one or two that worked.
You had a plan, which turned into a process, which led to you helping out in a big way.
Help yourself as you would a friend today.
Treat yourself with the kindness you deserve.
The outcome you want is fueled by anxiety.
But the process you follow is fueled by who you actually are.

That’s it for today.
Remember. Process, not outlandish ideas of perfection. Not outcomes that may or may not even make you happy.
Have a great Saturday,

Jordan
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