Have you ever experienced a situation in which you were forced to act a certain way?
Maybe you were told that you needed to sit down. Or that you had to stop talking. Whatever it was, I’m sure you had a response–or the incredible desire to have a response–that is pretty typical when you’re forced to do something.
You probably wanted to do the exact opposite of what you were told.
This is an innate desire that humans have. It’s called “reactance
,” and it’s hard-wired into our bodies.
So the response we are seeing to the quarantine lockdown is completely normal.
But that doesn’t mean it’s easy to handle.
Here’s what you should do if you’re dealing with reactance
Acknowledge the feeling - It’s completely fine if you want to do the opposite of what you’re told. Remember that this is a natural phenomeon you’re dealing with. Humans can’t escape their natural, biological makeup.
Step back from the feeling - How you do this is up to you. Some people prefer writing their feelings down. Others like to chat on the phone with a friend. What’s important is to assess your feeling, and then act on it in a controlled, productive way.
Take action with full information and full confidence - Once you’ve taken some time to gather your thoughts and have attempted to dissect them–which is way more than most people do, by the way–you’re now ready to act. But when you act, remember to act with full confidence. Uncertainty breeds anxiety, and if you’ve done the work to make up your mind, let your mind be fully made up. Take action and own it. You can’t control the outcome, but you can be confident about the due diligence you’ve done to make a good decision for yourself.
So no, quarantine fatigue is not just about quarantine fatigue. There is a timeless principle at play, and that principle is called reactance.
Understand reactance–and you are well on your way to making better decisions and feeling less anxious about the decisions you make.
What do you think? Can you relate to this concept. If you can, share this issue on social media and ask your friends if they can relate as well!
I hope you have a good start to your week,