Balance is a word that appears obvious in its meaning but actually becomes more complex the longer you think about it.
Balance is a give and take. It’s a retreat followed by an opening up, a softening followed by a firming and strengthening.
If you find yourself closing off to the world and feeling that the entire world is trying to make you feel, it’s probably time for a change in mindset.
Here’s something you can try. As always, be gentle with yourself.
Get a second opinion.
When you’re positive that the world is a certain way, it can be hugely helpful to get a second opinion. Ask a trusted friend or family member if they see the situation in the same way that you do. What is often the case is that they have a similar vantage point–with one very important difference: they are not you.
And because they are not living in your skin, they naturally will see things in slightly different ways. You don’t always need a huge shift in perspective to get you out of your narrow thinking. Sometimes it’s a slight change that has the biggest impact. Like a boulder one inch away from plummeting from its hold, one subtle change can cause it to start rocketing down its path.
A second opinion does not mean a better opinion. You may be thinking about something quite well. A second opinion simply means another opinion.
We all can benefit from getting out of our own heads.
And if it means getting unstuck and feeling better about our lives, a second opinion is more than the worth the effort it takes to get.
Narrow thinking happens to the best of us. Don’t beat yourself up. Just shift a bit and find a slightly different way to go about it.
It’s the weekend. Go be free like a little flower.
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