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Narrow Thinking? When to Get a Second Opinion.

There's a strange phenomenon that occurs when we don't feel well. It's a narrowing in of the mindset.
Narrow Thinking? When to Get a Second Opinion.
There’s a strange phenomenon that occurs when we don’t feel well.
It’s a narrowing in of the mindset.
When a person does not feel at their best, they tend to forget that the rest of the world exists.
Perhaps it’s the body and brain’s way of making us focus on ourselves long enough to feel better.
But stay in this mindset too long, and the results can be disastrous.
Let’s talk about a message that can be hard to hear:
“It’s not always about you.”

When You Feel the World Hates You
You might think that you are the center of the world. And in a way, you are. You’re the center of your world.
The problem?
Other people are the center of their own worlds too. And so when life becomes too difficult, and you don’t feel well, the natural tendency is to close up, insulate yourself, and do everything you can to protect your feelings.
This may provide temporary relief, but the insulation effect also prevents you from connecting with people in meaningful, healthy ways. Closing off to protect yourself risks losing out on the benefits of connecting with others.
Think of it this way. A turtle can stay in its shell for only so long. After a while, once the danger has passed, there comes a time when it is no longer beneficial for the turtle to stay in its shell. What maximized survival is now detrimental to survival. It’s a paradox, as so many things are in life.
But what does that mean for you in your human form?
It means finding balance. This is one way to do it.
Get a Second Opinion
Balance is a word that appears obvious in its meaning but actually becomes more complex the longer you think about it.
Balance is a give and take. It’s a retreat followed by an opening up, a softening followed by a firming and strengthening.
If you find yourself closing off to the world and feeling that the entire world is trying to make you feel, it’s probably time for a change in mindset.
Here’s something you can try. As always, be gentle with yourself.
Get a second opinion.
When you’re positive that the world is a certain way, it can be hugely helpful to get a second opinion. Ask a trusted friend or family member if they see the situation in the same way that you do. What is often the case is that they have a similar vantage point–with one very important difference: they are not you.
And because they are not living in your skin, they naturally will see things in slightly different ways. You don’t always need a huge shift in perspective to get you out of your narrow thinking. Sometimes it’s a slight change that has the biggest impact. Like a boulder one inch away from plummeting from its hold, one subtle change can cause it to start rocketing down its path.
A second opinion does not mean a better opinion. You may be thinking about something quite well. A second opinion simply means another opinion.
We all can benefit from getting out of our own heads.
And if it means getting unstuck and feeling better about our lives, a second opinion is more than the worth the effort it takes to get.

Narrow thinking happens to the best of us. Don’t beat yourself up. Just shift a bit and find a slightly different way to go about it.

It’s the weekend. Go be free like a little flower.

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