We live in a world that wants people to be “always on” and ready to go. Life is fast-paced, and if you’re not moving forward, you’re moving backwards.
That’s great if you’re a track and field athlete, but it’s not so great if you’re a regular human being going about regular old life.
Pretending to be happy is dangerous not only because of the reasons I mentioned above. Pretending to be happy is dangerous because you’re denying your one and primary truth–who you are.
Only you can be who you are. Sometimes cliches are apt descriptors of life.
When you show up in life as your full self, your goal is not to control what people think about you. It’s not to dupe others by pretending that you’re something you’re not. It’s to live in an authentic way. In the long term, authenticity breeds trust. It lets people know that you’re a real human being who responds in real ways to your environment.
Everyone knows that superheroes don’t actually exist, at least not in the comic-book-character sense. The real heroes display a wide range of emotions. They’re in tune with their emotions. They model healthy behavior, and that means being sad when they’re sad, and seeking help when life gets way too difficult. There’s absolutely no shame in that.
If you pretend to be happy, you’re only hurting yourself. Because change doesn’t happen when you will it to be so. Change happens because your current reality is fully acknowledged and fully integrated into your state of being.
Only then can you be happy with who you are and with your important, irreplaceable place in the world.
Hey, friend. Thanks for reading through this. If this one hit you hard, take some time to process it today. It’s OK to take a break. It’s OK to not be OK. It really is. If you need someone to reach out to, reply to this email. I never judge.
Be well and be yourself,
P.S. I just finalized the cover of my first book. I pushed back the release date because I wanted to add a subtitle to the book. What do you think? You’re the first to see it. 😊 The e-book and print versions will both be available soon.