First, don’t get so caught up in the details of your life
Try your best not to obsess over what could or couldn’t happen.
Instead, develop your ability to just notice what is going on. You most likely know where your current relationships with your closest friends and family stand. Where the anxiety comes from is wanting them to be different than how they actually are.
Focus on acceptance.
Write down what you know about how your relationships actually are. Get those needling thoughts out of your brain and onto something separate from your identity.
The problem is this: once we start to let our thoughts take hold of us, they start to become how we identify ourselves. Getting space from anxious thoughts helps us to see if the thoughts are accurate, if they truly define our current situation.
When you pry yourself from anxious details, you get much-needed clarity.
Second, try a day without judgment
What if, with every single thing that happens to you in a day, you simply accepted it without forming an opinion?
What do I mean by that?
I’ve realized that I don’t need to have an opinion about every little thing. I don’t need to pass judgment on what others do or don’t do. I can just let it be.
We’re taught in school–well, Americans at least–that we provide value to the world through what we know. Soon we learn to blabber on and on about everything. The ones who blabber the most are perceived as the most knowledgeable.
But I’m going to let you in on a secret.
No one really cares, and it becomes annoying when the blabberers of the world post everything they know across all social media channels and never stop to assess and take in new knowledge from others.
So, instead of having an opinion about everything, try a day of active passivity. Become a consumer of wisdom by simply observing your life.
That’s how you’ll begin to learn to see things as they actually are.
And, through it all, you might find that you quite like living your life in that way. You may, in fact, start to feel the anxiety melt away.
Prajna doesn’t have to be a scary concept; it can be something that you learn through daily action–and inaction
Because when you learn to see things as they really are, you make better decisions.
And isn’t that what life is all about? Making decisions that are right for you?
It’s possible. But like anything else, it’s a skill that requires practice and lots and lots of self-love.
Have you already tried this in your life? If you have or you haven’t, I’d love to know what you think!