What does this mean for you? Where is the lesson in all of this?
I’m not saying that it’s always bad to be the person out in front. Being a strong leader, self-assured and confident in front of a crowd, has its benefits. It’s certainly needed at times. What I am saying is that self-assured leaders are only the tip of the iceberg. Most of the work happens in the background. You can be part of the background without feeling bad about it.
You can support a friend while they get ready for a scary medical procedure. You can do the research when they’re too frightened to do it. You can help to set up appointments. You can drive your friend to the procedure. And you can be there to process it all after it’s all said and done.
Sure, your friend has to be the one to go through the procedure, but what you do can create a strong foundation. You can be the rock your friend leans on.
Or maybe you’re worried about your role at your job. You think you need to be stepping out in front more often–that you need to be the one that others look to. That’s all fine and dandy, but it’s not necessary. Did you realize that, in most cases, you can get more work done by being in the background than you can by being out in front? When you’re out in front, everyone sees your every move. And you get judged–boy, do you get judged.
But when you’re in the background, you can be crafty. You can carefully work on your plan. You can have conversations edging your plan forward. You can analyze relationships. This is the battle ground of the introvert.
I’m not saying you should be devious. What I’m saying is that you can often have more benefit–and lead a mentally healthier and more resilient life–by staying in the background. You absolutely do not need to be out in front.
Remember this the next time someone tells you that you need to be the one in charge.
Just smile–and know that you can accomplish more than enough working behind the scenes.
I hope you’re taking care of yourself. Thanks for joining me during this uncertain time. I’m always here if you need anything.