What do you actually do to balance your energy? What does it actually mean? I love to use myself as a test subject, so let’s continue on that theme, shall we?
Balancing energy, to me, means having the courage to take an honest look at what’s going on.
This is not easy to do.
Because once you do it, you have to acknowledge that things may not be going swimmingly. In fact, it’s opening yourself up to the possible acknowledgment that things could actually be going quite badly. And that is scary.
No one like to open themselves up to peer at their own shortcomings. But it’s necessary.
First, a note. I believe that there is a different way to think about this. Maybe “shortcomings” isn’t the best word to use. To reframe that, let’s look at it a different way.
Shortcomings imply personal failure, but there is so much in this world that is out of our control. We have no idea which projects will blow up in our faces and which ones will proceed smoothly.
Rather, we all must respond to the chaos of the world and take corrective action. Corrective action is something that puts you back in the driver’s seat. It’s regaining your power, and that’s much better than feeling you have to fix a shortcoming.
Balancing your energy also means that some things are going to need to change.
This is what I mean by corrective action. It’s when you muster the courage to honestly assess your life and think through what needs to happen next.
Perhaps you have one relationship that is completely draining your energy. That doesn’t mean you have to totally discard the relationship, but maybe you need to cut the time you spend on that relationship in half. Of course, this does not preclude increasing that time back to its previous level when your life is back in balance.
It just means that you and your mental health have to be the priorities.
And lastly, I believe it means undying compassion. This is crucial.
Change is hard. Accepting that things need to change going forward is a humbling position to be in.
So, whatever you do, treat yourself with compassion. Use good self-talk. Don’t get down on yourself because of something you think you should have done months ago. It’s OK. It really is.
Sometimes the most compassionate action you can take is to change–to acknowledge that what you have been doing is no longer in your best interests. Most people don’t do this, but you are not like most people. You’re here. You’re reading about mental health, and that means something.
If you have the courage to take an honest look at your life, you have the courage to change your life for the better.
That’s an admirable quality, and it’s something you should never feel guilty about.
Finding balance in life often seems elusive, but it’s possible.
So take a step back. Look around. And make changes if you need to.
There’s no shame in doing whatever it takes to live your happiest life.