When you feel stuck, when you no longer like yourself, it’s most likely because you’re not living up to the version of yourself that you know you can be.
It’s because you are stuck in a rut when you know you could be running down the road to bigger and better things.
But how do you get out of the rut if you’re in one? How do you completely transform your identity? It seems like an impossible task.
It’s not. But first you have to adopt a better story for yourself.
Because, if you think about it, you are the hero in your own story. At least, you could be. If you wanted to. And a lot of people, when it comes down to it, don’t really want to be the hero. They are satisfied being who and where they are. And that’s fine. But it’s not acceptable for other people, and I’m assuming, because you’re reading this newsletter, that it’s not acceptable for you.
So this is what I want you to do.
I want you to tell yourself that you are going to change your story. And you’re going to put yourself front and center. Your narrative is central to who you are as in individual. If you’re like how I was, you probably have adopted a “woe is me” mentality from time to time. You’ve probably told yourself that you don’t deserve any more than you’re getting. At the same time, you’re probably frustrated that the world isn’t working out the way you want it to. This kind of mindset is dangerous.
What you need to do is develop a better story about yourself. You have to become that hero that you know you can be. It’s only by thinking in this way that you will change your limiting beliefs about yourself.
Because I’ll let you in on a little secret.
“Successful” people have limiting beliefs just like everyone else. They just know how to crush those beliefs with a different story. They know that, by changing their storyline, they can change how they handle their limiting beliefs.
Heroes don’t give up at the first setback–or even the second or third. They push forward because that is what a hero would do. Once you tell your new story to yourself enough times, it starts to become who you are. It’s the honest-to-goodness truth.
If you can’t do this for yourself, do this for someone else in your life. Be the hero for someone else. It can feel more socially acceptable to act like a hero for others than a hero just because that’s what you want for yourself.
Whatever it takes, make the change.
Until the story changes, nothing else will.