When it comes to having uncomfortable conversations, this is what you should consider.
If you’re feeling uncomfortable, the other person most likely is too. This is actually a pretty good rule for most relationships. Most people don’t openly talk about how they’re feeling. They don’t walk into a room and say, “Hey, you know what? I’m feeling both anxious and sad right now. Who wants to process this with me?”
That just doesn’t happen.
So you need heuristics; you need little tricks to pick up on what’s going on. An uncomfortable conversation is the result of a long-term emotional breakdown between two or more people.
You also need to remember that the point of an uncomfortable conversation is not to crush the other person with your wit and rationale. It’s just not. The point is more about the process than it is about what’s being said. When you enter an uncomfortable conversation, you’re opening yourself up. You’re showing that you can be vulnerable. You’re taking the first step. Just the process of entering a potential battlefield demonstrates courage.
You’re alive in this world, which means you have many uncomfortable conversations ahead of you.
I hope this served as a nice primer for what they’re all about.
Don’t be alarmed if you feel the need to have one of these conversations.
Your emotions are not the entire story. They are sign posts on the road to a deeper understanding between you and all the people you meet.
Well, I guess this was an odd topic for a Friday, huh? I hope it helped!
P.S. You are smart and kind.