View profile

What if you didn't keep everything to yourself?

A lot of people, especially people who deal with anxiety, keep much of what they think to themselves.
What if you didn't keep everything to yourself?
A lot of people, especially people who deal with anxiety, keep much of what they think to themselves.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with this.
But I noticed something when I stopped doing it.
The world opened up in a really interesting way.

I Used to Live Primarily in My Head
“If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything at all!”
Did you ever get that advice as a child?
I did. And it stuck with me, apparently. Because, for years, I lived mainly in my head.
Call it anxiety. Call it social pressure. Call it whatever you want. Just don’t call me out of the blue. Because I’m not answering. That’s the kind of anxious feeling that still lingers for me.
I’m making big changes in another way, though. I’m sharing more of what’s on my mind. But I’m doing it in a selective way–and it’s made a big difference.
Before I explain, I want to ask you something. Are you ever in a public place–maybe a coffee shop or a grocery store–and you notice something interesting about someone? Perhaps it’s their shirt. Or maybe it’s a clever way that they move or talk. What you probably didn’t do was say something to them about it.
I definitely didn’t. But now I do. The key here is that I do this selectively. And, I’ll tell you what: it’s one heck of a powerful approach.
My anxious brain used to tell me to keep my mouth shut if I had an observation that felt important to me. “No one cares about what you think,” my brain would tell me. But that’s not entirely true. If you make selective comments, people do care. And they care a lot.
This is what I mean.
Positive Thoughts Lead to Positive Comments
I’ve started to make positive observations about what I see.
Because, as I’ve found, comments that I thought were minor and silly actually mean the world to others.
“I really like your coat.”
“The music in here is great. Did you pick it?”
“I see you all the time. How long have you worked here?”
“You’re always so helpful.”
These are all statements I chose not to say before, but now I say them. And you know what? It starts conversations! It gets me known as a regular in places. It shows people that I’m curious, that I actually care about them and how they are feeling.
It shouldn’t be creepy. Don’t say, “Hey, I like that you wore that one ring on your left index finger and now you have it on your right middle finger….hahhhh.” That would be awkward…
Just make simple, positive statements about others.
If something is intriguing to you, it’s probably important to someone else.
Give it a try today.
You never know what might happen next.
What do you think? Is this something you would do? Have you done it? How has it worked for you?

Thinking of You,


P.S. I’m upgrading the members’ community. It will be ready in about 1.5 days. Also, I updated the members’ benefits page. Thank you to all of you who already became members. You know who you are. :)
Did you enjoy this issue?
Become a member for $10 per month
Don’t miss out on the other issues by Jordan Brown - Mental Health Writer, Poet, and Advocate
Jordan Brown - Mental Health Writer, Poet, and Advocate

The Mental Health Update is an inspirational email newsletter containing authentic mental health articles that make mental health issues like depression, anxiety, OCD meaningful AND accessible.

This is different from typical mental health newsletters.

It's not just an Anxiety Email Newsletter or a Depression Email Newsletter - It's timeless mental health wisdom and inspiration to start your day in a thoughtful, uplifting way.

I was tired of other mental health newsletters blasting out generic lists of links. And I was especially tired of other mental health newsletters not focusing on the everyday reality of mental health issues.

So I decided to come up with something I wanted to read. This mental health newsletter is like a caring friend that just wants you to feel better.

Mental health awareness articles don't need to be all doom and gloom and filled with jargon.

With The Mental Health Update email newsletter, you'll get practical mental health information, tips, and new ways to view the world.

We discuss topics like anxiety, depression, OCD, the mental health to mental illness spectrum, social and communication skills, and much more.

You deserve to get helpful mental health information that you can actually apply to your life.

This is what a few subscribers had to say about this newsletter:

"If you haven't yet subscribed to Jordan's daily newsletter, you absolutely should. It's chock full of good stuff to read and will help make your day better. Not unlike a daily vitamin for your mental health and soul..." - JR

"Daily encouragement from someone who has “been there” when it comes to mental health struggles. Comes in the form of stories and simple, actionable tips for reframing and working with - and through - your issues. One of the few newsletters that has survived my ruthless inbox decluttering sprees. Highly recommended!" - Kelila

"Jordan's mental health update is a welcomed daily email in my inbox. It often provides me with a chance to break from the mundane tasks of working in an office and take a moment for myself to hear his thoughtful and well put together thoughts on many aspects of mental health. As someone who works in the psychology field it's often a nice reminder and way of grounding myself to all the great work that's going on and the journey we all must take in supporting mental health. Thank you Jordan!" - Rob

If you're ready to get high-quality, helpful mental health information from a person who has been there, enter your email address below to sign up!

I take my no-spam policy very seriously with the email addresses I receive. I consider it a mental health obligation to not abuse your trust.

You can manage your subscription here
If you were forwarded this newsletter and you like it, you can subscribe here.
Powered by Revue
Missoula, MT