And here’s the really uncomfortable part.
The anxiety will not fully go away until collectively we do something about the systems of racism that exist in the United States and around the world.
And that means making changes that will lead to a lot more anxiety for many before it gets better for all. To dismantle racist systems and rid the world of shame and anxiety, certain people must make their lives more inconvenient and uncomfortable so that others can have more freedom.
Where do you even begin with a reality like that?
This is what I’m doing to consider my privilege
I’m educating myself beyond what I’ve learned in grad school and working in the mental health field. I’m reading books and watching videos so I can fully understand the nature of my privilege. This makes me especially anxious because everything is based on skin color. My skin is even lighter than my sister’s, so my experiences in this world fall along different gradients than hers.
And I’m listening more and more. I’m talking less so that I can give voice to others who have been forced into the background. It happens automatically. Certain people naturally talk over others. And that’s why it’s so insidious. Privilege is getting something that you don’t deserve just because you look a certain way.
And then I will act. When possible, I will be more uncomfortable so others can gain the power they should already have.
These conversations about race are making many people incredibly anxious.
But maybe we need a bit more anxiety for once.
Maybe that’s how it feels before a societal shift takes place.
Reach out if you want to talk about this. This issue wasn’t meant to inflame or point blame. Rather, I wanted to shine a light on a reality. It just is. But that doesn’t mean the reality should stay that way. Reach out. It’s not the time to reach out to people of color for emotional support. Their emotional labor is high and has always been high. Let’s consider these tough conversations we’re now having.
Thanks for reading,