It’s so tempting. You think you can get away with it at first.
You’re only going to compare a little bit. You tell yourself that it’s only a healthy dose of competition. Wanting to be better than someone else never hurt anyone.
It may not have hurt anyone else, but it’s hurting you. Because something sinister happens when you compare yourself with someone else. You enter a no-win situation. You start to roll down the steep hill of comparison and into the negative comparison loop.
This is the problem that occurs when you compare.
When you compare yourself to someone else, you place your fate in their hands, exactly where you do not want it to be. Because you have no control over what others do or say. Even with your close family and friends–you can’t control them.
And this is the root of unhappiness, when we think we have control when we actually have none. When you aim to control another, you base your happiness on something completely random. With a roll of the die, you relinquish all power that you have.
She might be your best friend, but she lives according to her own free will. He may be your father, but it is not his responsibility to do what makes you happy.
This is life, and it’s a crushing blow to the ego.