Ok, maybe that wasn’t fair.
Maybe we don’t all fit the textbook definition of narcissistic personality disorder.
But we do all have the trait.
We’re all somewhere on the spectrum from grandiose ideas of self-adoration and completely selfless service to others.
One thing that makes discussing mental health issues so difficult is that we can see parts of ourselves in almost any diagnosis.
We all know what it’s like to obsess or panic or cling to others from time to time.
And so it’s so much easier to demonize another person than dare admit that we may share a similar trait with them.
Today’s Exercise - This is what I want you to do as you move through your week:
- Identify traits you despise in others
- Identify why it is that you hate those traits so much
- Consider if it is at all possible that you may share even a shred of the trait that you so despise
- Consider how that makes you feel
This simple exercise isn’t meant to freak you out.
It’s intended to open you up.
Again, you may not fit a textbook diagnosis of something.
And that’s not really the point.
The point is that no one fit these diagnoses before we had the textbooks in the first place.
We all just had behaviors and thoughts and emotions that emanated from the same primordial stew.
So before we criticize another, we must look at ourselves.
Because you and I…we’re not so different.