This, I think, is where it starts.
To not know who you are is a good thing.
It’s the start of something big. Something healthy.
Because when you question who you are, it means you’re curious enough to know if there is a real you, if there’s a person that is authentic and whole and complete.
It’s where it all begins.
If you’re not feeling like yourself, you might have some of these thoughts:
Why do I feel this way?
My life doesn’t feel like my own.
What am I supposed to be doing?
This isn’t me.
I don’t want to be doing any of this.
These seem like bad thoughts, but hold on just a second.
The bad is where the good comes from. There are two sides to everything.
It’s in that odd reality that you find yourself.
The Simple Process of Becoming Yourself
Remember, simple doesn’t mean easy, but when you’re not feeling like yourself, you need to get back to basics.
Follow these 10 steps. Post them on a mirror. Be present with what happens:
- Lean into the negative emotions
- Acknowledge the negative emotions, whatever that means for you
- Start to consider what the negative feelings are telling you
- Realize your body knows who you are at your core
- Realize that if you have negative emotions, they are still telling you something about yourself
- Start to consider what’s on the other side of the negative emotion
- Know that you are a complex, yet whole, individual
- Grasp for the other side of the negative
- Really try to understand what the negative is telling you
- Follow that path, with complete curiosity, wherever it takes you
Again, simple does not mean easy.
Simple does not mean guaranteed.
What it means is a basic acknowledgment of what’s going on for you, in your life.
Because the weight of the world can be crushing.
There will always be people who demand your time and attention. There will always be somewhere to be and something to do.
And that is why it’s so very important to follow the simple path back to yourself.
It’s a journey of question and answer, of black and white.
But who you are is in there, somewhere in the solid middle ground, if only you carve out the space and time to discover it.
I hope you got something out of this. I can’t give you the exact answers that will uncover who you are. You need to do the work. I just know what’s worked for me and the many, many stories I hear, read, and compile in my brain. Walk the simple path. Get back to basics.
Sending you the strength to do the work and the awareness to know what to do with the answers you find,
P.S. You’re a good person. Don’t ever forget that.