Be careful and read this very carefully.
It’s crucial that you do the work to check in with yourself before you take action.
If you learn that someone has talked behind your back and you immediately rush to respond, you’re not much better than a dog chasing after a bone.
Your brain is an incredibly complex object, and while its natural tendency is to warn you and protect you from danger, it also has enhanced features to position you for long-term success.
So get out of the first-order future, and move yourself into second and third-order consequences.
Ask yourself not only “What would happen if I do this?” but “What would happen after that happens if I do that?”
Questions can be your best friend.
Because the unfortunate reality is this:
People will always talk behind each other’s backs.
It’s human nature.
And if you respond without thinking, you’ll run into situations you’re not prepared for.
But if you stop to ask questions, you’ll have more data to work with, you’ll predict better, and you’ll be better prepared for whatever happens.
Remember, you don’t have to respond to inevitable events in certain, predictable ways.
You have the ability to think.
You have the ability to prepare.
When people talk behind your back, talk to yourself.
Do it with compassion.
Bring your thoughts and feelings out into the open.
And then ask questions.
You’ll make your best decisions that way.
Sigh. There will always be situations that upset us. But you can only control how you respond, not what other people do.
Do you have any questions about asking questions?
Reply and let me know!
Until next time, have a great rest of your week and give yourself the credit you deserve,