In life, you’re always faced with options.
You’re tasked with choosing the best course of action in response to any number of evolving situations.
It’s hard enough to know about what’s happening in front of you, let alone choosing the best course of action to ensure your happiness.
When I moved from Virginia back to Montana at the end of 2019, I didn’t know exactly what I was going to do.
I just knew I had to get away from the East Coast.
Even though I grew up in New York, I couldn’t stand the fast-paced, work-until-you-drop mentality.
Conversations were mainly transactional, it seemed.
I missed the laid-back mindset of Montana and the West.
So my wife and I left good jobs and just decided to leave.
Yes, it was terrifying.
And yes, my brain was telling me I was stupid for not having something lined up.
But my heart knew it would be happier back in Montana.
My heart was not wrong. It rarely is.
Making any big move, whether it’s a physical move or a decision to pursue another career, is life-altering. There’s no way it can’t be.
And it’s as much about the unknown as it is what you hope to get out of life.
Stressful life experiences are stressful not because of what they appear to be on the surface.
Anyone can look at the surface of something and give you their take on what it’s all about.
Stressful life experiences are stressful because they involve a moving of the heart, body, and mind.
It’s a shifting from the known to the unknown.
In the process, you cross through the middle.
And what’s in the middle can’t be seen. It can only be moved through.
Most humans don’t like the part in the middle.
It’s not comfortable. There are no clear guidelines.
Going from A to B unexpectedly takes detours through J, R, and L.
It just makes no sense.
Still, that’s what life is all about, the stirring the pot of sense-making until a clear meaning comes forth.
You can choose to be stuck and hold onto something that is always changing anyway, or you can follow your heart and see where it takes you.
I hate the physical move itself, the getting ready and packing up and saying goodbye, but I like what I find out about myself when I’m in the process of doing those things.
Packing up your life and going somewhere else takes you from point A to point B, yes, but it’s in the process of moving that you learn who you really are.
It’s the same thing for goal-setting.
You don’t set goals to get new and bold things done.
No, you set goals to become the kind of person who can accomplish those things.
There’s a big difference between the two.
So, I’m moving.
I’m tired, but I’m also hopeful.
I’m nervous, but I’m also excited.
Life can be stressful.
But it’s the stress that shapes you and shows you how far you can go.