TWO - You Decrease Your Chance for Human Connection
What happens when you spend a lot of time around someone who thinks he’s right all the time?
Does that make you want to trust that person with your innermost secrets?
Quite the opposite.
People who think they are right all the time are off-putting because they aren’t vulnerable. It’s like they walk around with an inner tube around their waist that says, “Don’t approach me.”
Part of the human experience is accepting that we don’t know very much and that we’re never going to know very much.
This might sound depressing at first, but it’s not.
Not knowing is where wonder comes from. Not knowing is what leads us to the pursuit of truth. If you knew absolutely everything, what fun would that be? Life would lose all meaning.
The same applies to your interactions with others.
One of the best ways you can connect with another human being is by being vulnerable.
I get the most responses from readers when I share my darkest secrets and my deepest struggles–NOT when I tout my wisest wisdom because I’m a super-smart person with the power to bestow great depths of knowledge. (Even writing that sentence made me barf in my mouth a little bit.)
If you aim to be right, you’re really aiming to be alone.
I’m not saying that you should stop trying to find the truth.
Theoretically, it is possible that you have uncovered great truths that others do not yet understand.
But how likely is that?
To get far in this life, you’re going to need others. And to bring others closer to you, you’re going to have to show your flaws and admit your weaknesses.