How do you feel when you imagine sharing your darkest, most personal thoughts?
Does it fill you with dread?
Does it make you worry about something that hasn’t even happened yet?
If it does, you’re not alone.
Imagining dark possibilities is where the brain goes to in times of stress–but also in times of ease.
But is this way that the world works in reality?
Or is it something that is a gross exaggeration of the truth?
Turns out–it’s a little bit of both.
Reality is what you see and hear.
It’s the sensory experiences that combine to determine your perception of the world. And the word, “perception” is the key to it all.
Perception is a murky tunnel opening up onto the greenest pastures you’ve ever experienced. It’s a shifting orb of light and darkness.
Is reality perception, or is perception reality? That’s the conundrum right there, after all.
And it’s what makes this all so challenging. At first.
Reality is the feeling you get of being immersed in the world. It’s a warm blanket pulled from a freezing lake. A table supporting objects that is itself being supported by something else.
This kind of duality / blending phenomenon exists everywhere in the world.
You’re broken until you feel whole again. Your life is over until it isn’t. A friend is one way in one situation and the complete opposite in another.
Sometimes we intentionally seek out this balance.
Other times–and I think this is more common–the balance of life is thrust upon us.
We experience great failure to know stunning success.
We lose the good hand that we’re dealt and then come to realize we didn’t need that hand all along.
There’s just one problem.
What I just described is an internal kind of knowing, but it’s not everything.
There’s something else we’re up against. Something that’s holding us back.
Exaggeration of Reality
Reality is exaggerated when it’s blended with our thoughts and emotions.
No longer fully tangible, reality becomes a mixture of the vapor of our thoughts and feelings.
When you try to think about how you feel sharing the darkest thoughts of your lives, you are blending your current feelings with what could be, with the great unknown.
Reality is so fixed and so solid, but the great unknown remains out there, yet to be discovered.
Because you have not done it yet, have not been there yet, you think the worst thoughts when asked to consider darkness.
This has been my experience my entire life.
The worst is out there in its awfulness, something never to be entertained, let alone embraced. It can’t happen, although my fear always suggests otherwise.
Because fear takes the worst of what was and tries to project it onto what could be–except the element of the unknown amplifies the entire feeling.
The exaggeration of reality skews towards the worst possible scenario because the mind needs a new goal to reach, something that has not yet been done. This keep it active and always reaching for something new.
The problem with this approach is that it’s a step removed from reality. It’s not actually real.
Imagining the worst is always one ante higher than the worst.
Because the worst has already passed and has been integrated back into the whole.
The new worst lies outside you, tied up in ethereal feelings and thoughts.