Learn to let go.
Learn to notice when you are becoming overly attached to a fixed view of the world.
How you go about doing this is up to you.
There is no panacea for pain in life, and the practices that stick with you are the ones tailored to fit your unique life.
Still, there are things you can try.
Next time something “awful” happens to you, take a deep breath.
Or use a word of your choosing to break the negative thought pattern–a word like “STOP” or “ENOUGH.”
Once you’re free of the pattern, you’re free to choose another path.
Most of all, go easy on yourself.
Life is a learning process.
We all have to learn to deal with the pain we carry.
There are others walking a similar path, however.
Identify someone in your life you respect for how they carry their pain, and ask them how they do it.
No one needs to carry such a heavy load alone.